Happy Holidays!

Brendan Fraser as the Whale
Brendan Fraser as The Whale

Dear Subscriber,

Happy Holidays! Watch the sugar, don’t over-indulge, be crazy, and don’t fret too much.

I’m staying busy and will be with my son after Christmas rush, as I am not a lemming. I’ll be there on 26th through 28th. My granddaughter will be there also, home from college. She’s doing well, and plans to go to grad school in California rather than continuing in Utah (wise choice). More jobs in genetic technology and research in our state.

I was reminded of a friend I have who is obese when I saw the blowback from Aronofsky’s film The Whale. I, frankly, look at the issue like any 12-step program dealing with addiction. We often switch addictions from one to another. I was weighing 240 at one point, which is probably nothing to my friend, but when I chose to become vegetarian, eat no desserts and no sugars other than natural from fresh fruit, I lost all that and continue to hover around 200, which is still not that good, as I don’t get enough strenuous exercise as a writer. But I do walk over a mile at least four times a week.

Anyway, I want to watch this film from an “addict’s” viewpoint, as I empathize with anybody who can’t control his/her emotions enough to stay sober/clean/healthy. My dad went from alcohol to gambling and sex, and I went from alcohol to an obsession with writing (which isn’t a bad thing but it’s fairly addictive) and I combined it with a failed business. Speaking of writing and authors, I watched (again) the movie with Jack Nicholson playing the OCD author in NYC As Good As It Gets. Always makes me cry. The gay artist is fabulous in that movie.

Let me know your “take” on overeating and addiction, as this film seems to be getting a lot of blowback about “fat shaming.” They should be focusing on 12-step or Weight Watcher programs. When people come to the U.S. from Europe, or especially, Scandinavian countries, they’re amazed at all the “fatties” in our country.

I think that’s why this film The Whale got standing ovations at the foreign film festivals. Frankly, the movie could also be a slur against English teachers! LOL! As a sober and clean guy, and retired English professor, for coming up on 37 years, I can only say that you must have more fun sober than you did in your “bad” addictions. Otherwise, why be sober at all? We have a saying in the 12-step program, “Fake it until you make it.” I’ve been doing that one-day-at-a-time for 37 years now!

Take care, and see you around the human campus.

James Musgrave

San Diego, CA

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  1. Paula Mason

    Wow. Sad for your friend. I agree, it’s an addiction. Some people are predisposed to weight gain biologically, genetically whatever, but no one weighs 400 lbs naturally I don’t think.
    There used to be a local burger restaurant I worked for named Big Ed’s. Ed, Mrs Ed, and all the little Ed’s, weighed well over 400 lbs and relied on wheelchairs. Ed actually topped 600 before death. Duh. I found it odd that Big Ed’s claim to fame was the Big Ed – a 12″ bun with 8 or 12 patties, cheese of course, and 2 full fry baskets of fries. Serves 8 or 12 respectively. Anyway, the fun part was, a special deal- eat the whole burger and all the fries- one person, one sitting, and yay! You get it all free. That is just bizarre to me but I always thought, as with my father and 12 yo Old Charter, there was a mind-body disconnect somewhere.
    Anyway, I can relate to the fat shaming. I’m a couple inches shy of 6 ft tall and top the scales at a whopping 96lbs. I’m not anorexic, ⅔of my stomach was removed due to scar tissue from bleeding ulcers when I was 22. Non-reversible Gastric bypass from hell. My docs told me I would never have a weight problem. They lied. And worse, I still have ulcers. Basically, I’m evaporating and it’s definitely a weight problem! I have a choice- eat or drink. I can’t do both simultaneously. A cup of yoplait fills me up, beyond that it’s incredibly painful. Half of the time, I can’t even retain what I’ve eaten. I see a virtual skeleton in my mirror so I know how I look. But people tend to assume 1) I’m anorexic, or 2) I’m a dope head, and I choose this for myself. I do not, I do eat a relatively healthy diet because every bite matters. I can’t survive on candy and chips and calorie laden junk. If I did, I’d be dead already lol. But every single time I buy groceries, or dine in a restaurant people think they should tell me I need to eat more, or have some cheesecake you can use it. Sometimes it’s, girl I wish I was as skinny you– where do you get your willpower? They don’t really want to be as skinny as me, they just wanna disguise the criticism so as to make their point without feeling bad about themselves it. Everyone thinks they have the right to give advice in order to ‘fix’ me. So I totally get the body shaming thing. I haven’t seen the show you referred to as I don’t watch TV, but I firmly believe that no one has the right to pass judgement until they have walked in the same pair of shoes. Or even then, actually. We are all created equal, not identical.
    That’s my 2¢

    Happy Christmas 🎄

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